At one point during what you might call a heated discussion, Ron said to me, “One of the main reasons you have a unique ability to regurgitate lyrics is because you’re one of the few people who listen to them in the first place.” It was a point that I couldn’t argue with.
And one thing that happens when you listen to a lyric is that you actully listen to what a song says. And it occurs to me that there are a lot of songs I love that give really, really dicey advice when you think about it. Here’s the first in an occasional series. (And please, feel free to add your choices in the comments below.)
Make Someone Happy — “Make someone happy and you will be happy, too.” First of all, there are some people who will never be happy. So if you’re making your happiness rely on them getting to happy you’re totally wasting your time. And I can think of a number of occasions where I’ve given a lot of happiness to others and I’ve certainly received satisfaction — but happiness???
Marry the Man Today — “…and change his ways tomorrow.” This seems like an instant road to divorce court. (BTW, great quote from a NYTimes article about a man taking a family trip to Disney — “…which prove again a useful principle for all couples: don’t try to change each other. Study and subvert each other. “)
Don’t Cry Out Loud — “…just keep it inside and learn how to hide your feelings.” And then pay for years of therapy.
I’d Rather Leave While I’m In Love — Does that mean you’d rather stay when it’s bad?
When In Rome I Do as the Romans Do — FYI, whenever I’m out of town I cheat. As Dr. Phil might say, “How’s knowin’ that workin’ out for you?”